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Have the Courage To Ask
Elite executive coach Marshall Goldsmith has helped thousands of leaders to improve their performance. A true leader, he says, has the courage to put ego and fear to one side and ask what needs to be changed.
English (United States) | Written 5/6/2009  read 376 times since then
Elite executive coach Marshall Goldsmith has helped thousands of leaders to improve their performance. A true leader, he says, has the courage to put ego and fear to one side and ask what needs to be changed.
‘The late Peter Drucker had a great way with words. He distilled meaningful concepts into short phrases more effectively than anyone I have ever met. I have had the privilege of being on the Board of the Drucker Foundation (and now the Leader to Leader Institute) for many years. At one of our early Drucker Foundation Board meetings, Peter observed, "The leader of the past knew how to tell, the leader of the future will know how to ask."
‘Why is asking so important? Almost all of the leaders that I meet manage knowledge workers. Peter defined knowledge workers as people who know more about what they are doing than their boss does. It is hard to tell people what to do and how to do it - when they already know more than we do! In today's rapidly changing world, we need to ask, listen and learn from everyone around us. As Peter stated, "Leaders need to be willing to start with asking the question, ‘What needs to be done?'"
‘Asking works! This isn't just a theory - as research shows - it is a fact. My partner, Howard Morgan and I recently published a study (‘Leadership is a contact sport', strategy + business) on leadership development programmes involving over 11,000 leaders and 86,000 of their co-workers from eight major corporations. Our findings were very clear. Leaders that ask co-workers to provide suggestions for improvement, listen to their co-workers, learn from the people around them and consistently follow-up are seen as becoming more effective. Leaders that don't ask - don't get much better. A few years ago, Leader to Leader published a similar study with relationship customers and found very similar results. External customer satisfaction goes up when customer service representatives ask, listen, learn and follow-up.
‘In addition to being supported by research, asking just makes common sense. When people ask us for our input, listen and try to learn from us, and follow-up to see if they are getting better, our relationship with them almost invariably improves.
‘I have only one question and it seems so simple and obvious: Why don't we do it?
I have reviewed summary 360º feedback involving thousands of leaders from over 50 major organizations. If the item, "Asks people what he or she can do to improve" is included in the company's leadership inventory, it is almost always near the bottom (if not in last place) in terms of employee satisfaction. As a rule - in spite of Peter Drucker's good suggestions - leaders don't ask!
‘One of the major reasons that we don't ask is our inflated ego. When I have asked over 50,000 leaders to ‘rate themselves' relative to their professional peers - the results are very consistent - and very amazing! About 60% of all leaders rank themselves in the ‘top 10%' of their professional peer group, almost 85% say they are in the ‘top 20%' and over 98% claim to be in the ‘top half'! The performance of the company has very little to do with the self-assessment of its leaders. I have done this exercise with leaders in four companies that were considered (at that time) as the ‘most admired' in America - the results were about the same. I have also done this exercise with leaders in two companies that were facing bankruptcy - the results were almost identical!
‘When we become successful, we are often delusional about the reasons for our success. Successful people tend to attribute good results to our own motivation and ability. We tend to attribute poor results to environmental factors, bad luck or random chance.
‘When we over-rate our own performance and knowledge, we can easily justify not asking others for their input. After all, why should we ask others, when (in our own mind) we already know more than they do!
‘Although inflated ego is one important reason that we don't ask, it is not the biggest reason - the biggest reason is fear. Recently I asked the Vice-President of Customer Satisfaction in a major organisation, "Should your employees be asking their key customers for feedback - listening - learning and following-up to ensure service keeps getting better?"
"Of course!"
"How important it this to your company?" I inquired, egging him on to be more enthusiastic.
"It's damn important," he cried out.
I then lowered my voice and asked, "Have you ever asked your wife for feedback on how you can become a better husband?"
He stopped, thought for a second, and sighed. "No."
My interrogation continued. "Who is more important - your company's customers or your wife?"
"My wife - of course," he sadly noted.
"If you believe in asking so much why don't you do it at home?"
"Because I am afraid of the answer," he admitted ruefully.
‘Why don't most of us ask - even though we know we should? We don't ask because - deep down inside - we are afraid of the answers. Let me give you a personal example. I am 57 years old. At my age, one type of input that I should be asking for every year is called a physical exam. I managed to avoid this input - not for one year or two years - but for seven years! How did I avoid a physical exam for seven years? What did I keep telling myself - for seven years?
"I will get that exam after I quit travelling so much."
"I will get that exam after I go on my ‘healthy foods' diet."
"I will get that exam after I get in shape!"
Have you ever told yourself the same thing? Who are we kidding - the doctor - our families? We are only kidding ourselves.
‘My suggestions are very simple: As a leader - listen to what Peter Drucker said - get in the habit of asking key co-workers for their ideas on what needs to be done. Thank them for their input, listen to them, learn as much as you can, incorporate the ideas that make the most sense and follow-up to ensure that real, positive change is occurring. As a coach - encourage the people that you are coaching to ask, listen and learn from everyone around them. Be a great role model for learning - then ask the people you are coaching to learn in the same way that you are. As an executive coach, I find that my clients can learn a lot more from their key stakeholders than they ever learn from me! As a friend and family member - ask the people that you love how you can be a better partner, friend, parent or child. Listen to their ideas. Don't get so busy with work that you forget that they may well be the most important people in your life.
‘Improving interpersonal relationships doesn't have to take a lot of our time. It does require having the courage to ask for important people's opinions and the discipline to follow-up and do something about what we learn. As Peter Drucker suggested, we need to ask, "What needs to be done?"
‘Who do you need to ask?
‘When are you going to start asking?'
You can check out the great Marshall Goldsmith blog for more top executive coaching.


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